You may have times when you’ve been hurt or felt angry toward someone close to you. They may have said something that devastated you or performed some behavior without thinking that triggered feelings of frustration, anger or hurt. And yet you still hope to include them in your life.
Learning to forgive and let go is not only a noble act; it is your spiritual superpower. Forgiveness helps you have peace with yourself. However great the benefits are, it’s not always easy to achieve.
Minor transgressions are easy to forgive and forget. But then the big things might cause the kind of trauma that may be hard to let go of. You might tell yourself that you’ve let it go, but in many cases, you haven’t.
Real forgiveness can only come from strength and a complete understanding of reality. When you forgive, you’re not being weak; it’s your superpower; you’re showing how strong you are; in many cases, you’re even stronger than the person who wronged you. You forgive even if they haven’t recognized that they wronged you. Forgiveness is not about that person; it is about you.
Forgiveness also means accountability for your actions and words during unsavory events. If you’re struggling to forgive, go over what happened in your mind. What did you say? How did you react? How did you end the exchange? Forgiveness is accepting the truth about yourself and your faults.
The road to spiritual enlightenment is to forgive others who know not what they do! It’s essential to learn to forgive. When holding onto grudges or resentments only hurts you. It makes it harder for you to heal by weakening your spiritual frequency to God.
If we believe that forgiveness is a quality of our creator and we are in the creator’s likeness, why should we not forgive? Why shouldn’t we strive to have that same quality of the Most-High?
Not training our spiritual selves to forgive can lead to foul moods, depression, or even health conditions. We must stop holding on to situations that create unhealthy spiritual baggage that burdens our future.
I have listed below the basic steps that have helped me follow the path of forgiveness. As you read through these steps, think about how you might adapt them to your life.
The first step is that we must acknowledge our hurt. Who was it that hurt us, and why did they do it? What is the context of the situation, and what role did you play in the case?
Understanding your emotions
Understanding our emotions is vital. We all have a natural capacity to resolve difficult emotions that affect our behavior, relationships, body, and peace of mind.
Acceptance is the first part of healing from your trauma. When you accept that you cannot change what happened in the past, no matter how much pain you feel, it’s time to admit that your anger toward the person won’t redeem what they have done.
Dependence on God
Forgiveness is about more than saying a prayer. It is a spiritual decision that can only come from your connection to God. Forgiving takes prayer and meditation when someone hurts you or causes you trauma. Leaning on your spiritual connection to God will give you the strength to forgo the process of forgiveness.
Forgiving allows you to release the pain. You’re instantly freed from holding on to the grudge whenever you say, “I forgive you” to someone; you’re immediately rid of holding on to the resentment. You can now move on and live your life as peacefully as possible.
Once you’ve found it in your heart to forgive, it’s time to work on letting go. This step can be so difficult, yet it’s the most important. Letting go means you’re no longer fighting battles in your mind.
One way to let go is to adopt the attitude of a present-moment thinker or forward thinker. You’ll want to spend as much time as you can genuinely experiencing life at the moment.
Repairing the relationship with the person who wronged you is always possible. Part of forgiving is reconciliation and rebuilding your relationship with the person.
The repairing process is gifting each other with mindfulness, kind words, honor, and Black love. It is essential to understand that you are repairing the relationship, not restoring it. Restoring a relationship after hurt or trauma takes more time. It will take time and effort for the relationship to return to normal.
Praying for your enemies
It might sound counterproductive. But when you pray for your enemy, you are leveling up your God frequency. We live in days of massive ignorance, misinformation, depression, and trauma. There is power in words, so we should speak Godly words into our healing, and both parties involved can move forward in their direction.
Forgiveness is the right choice to advance yourself on a higher moral and spiritual level. It doesn’t mean that you’ve forgotten what has happened. With forgiveness, you’re simply deciding to move on with your life and take control of your future.
When you decide to live a more conscious existence and a spiritual connection, you have more room in your heart to forgive those who wronged you or caused trauma. Realizing that forgiveness is in your best interest and the best interest of the other individual involved, you can move forward and re-discover a bright future.
The superpower of forgiveness is within you. Use it for your own greater happiness.